Good Riddance

After over a week of not seeing South Africa due to birthday celebrations, I thought that I ought to see him at some point (especially since he'd given me a birthday pressie... moving too fast anyone???). We arranged that I would drive up and see him and sort out further plans from there. I had also been invited to go surfing the same day which I was expecting to be in the morning so when I heard that the plan was to go in the afternoon, I had to decline. I should probably have taken it as a sign that I would rather have gone surfing... but I went ahead with the 'date' anyway.

When I got there, South Africa was not in the best way after a rather late night. Still, we went upstairs and you don't need details! We then had lunch with his parents. His mum is a great cook but a little full on crazy! After lunch, we chatted about what we might do with the afternoon- watch a film, go for a walk on the beach, do something! We didn't really come to any decision but went upstairs and lay down chatting away. South Africa then says to me 'do you mind if I have catch 20mins sleep'. No worries, you go to sleep, I'll have a bit of a lie down and watch a bit of T.V. Not how I'd usually spend a dya off but hey ho. Over an hour later I had dozed off a little out of sheer boredom. I checked my phone to seee the time- 5:30pm- and got up saying I was going to head home. I got very little response and once I'd sorted my stuff out let him know again that I was leaving and started to head out of the door. It was only at this point that he said he would walk me to the door- no questions about why I was leaving and no effort to keep me there. Seriously! I do not have time for someone who doesn't want to fight for me so left feeling pretty angry. I got a phone call as I was driving home to apologise and had excuse after excuse thrown at me- he thought maybe I had to be home for something, he was hungover and not in the mood, blah blah bull shit! I gave him the option- Did he want me to come back or should I go home? From this I got no straight answer so said I was going to go home and wouldn't be coming back. Since this got a similarly non-commital response I drove off with absolutely no regrets. Clearly we are never going to work. That's the thing with online dating though- it's always going to be difficult to find someone who is right for you because there is, in many cases, going to be so little common ground.

I had one more message from him the following day which was a kind of apology but also a whole load of excuses which only served to piss me off even more! So, it's goodbye South Africa and onto the next challenge!!

Jen xx